We need to talk about chronic pain more

Endometriosis leads to numerous women opting for a hysterectomy in order to ease their chronic pain. Here’s a blog that addresses issues of endometriosis.


Recently I was sat around a dinner table with some visitors, and someone there was trying to share their experience of living with incurable pain.

This took a lot of bravery to do in such a social setting, and being in pain myself that moment I was listening intently to their story, when someone else quipped that this person was “going on about their pain again” and “no one wanted to hear about it”.

I corrected the person, and explained that I did indeed want to hear, and it was very important to listen to stories of pain, as I lived with chronic pain myself.

Isn’t it interesting that pain forms such a huge part of our lives, but years of societal conditioning has told us that it’s something we have to carry quietly?

I completely disagree.

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Get your nose out of my uterus

I always enjoy blogs that use a little sarcasm or snark to get a point across. So I enjoyed this one. I think her point is a good one though. Why do we as a society feel so comfortable asking people about this? We should stop. Because for one – really, it’s none of your business. Two – you’re very possibly treading on thin ice here, potentially putting people in a very awkward position. We seem to assume that people can just make a decision to have a child and then, voila, 9 months later a baby pops out when in actuality, this is not a reality for many people. What do you think about this issue?

Fits of Wit

Everyone keeps asking when I’m going to push munchkins out of my lady parts.

I apologize to the people who may have found the above sentence offensive. Let me rephrase…

Everyone keeps asking when I’m going to push mini Danny Devito’s out of my va-jay-jay.

Everyone keeps asking when I’m going to mix my egg with my husband’s sperm and make a super baby.

Everyone keeps asking when my vagina will be ripped open by a tiny, whiny person.

My point is that folks around me have gotten quite comfortable with bombarding the inevitable question “Are you going to have kids now?” and “What’s next?” My response is usually “When I’m good and ready, fool!” and “Keep being awesome.”

I suppose it’s a fair enough question. We as a society are bred to always be thinking about the future. The stereotypical American dream includes a successful career, single family home…

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Here’s another new blog starting up about an upcoming hysterectomy surgery. You may want to check it out as well.

Musings of a Chimera

The inspiration for this blog came from my recent diagnosis of fibroid tumors in my uterus.  I have surgery scheduled for a hysterectomy the second week in February.  As I’ve been relatively healthy and have had no surgeries except for cesarean for my first baby, I’m a bit pensive about the entire thing.  So maybe writing and sharing my experience can help me vent, and perhaps help others out there.

One of things when you deal with fibroids is severe loss of vitality and energy.  It sucks everything out of you – not to mention the pain, and discomfort, and the impact your hormones play on the fibroids and how they tend to have a life of their own.  I’ve often in the past have had little “fluttering” and vibrations from my uterus – but nothing to get to upset about.  But recently they have increased in intensity and I…

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Keeping the ovaries

What do you think about robotic surgery? Does it ‘creep’ you out your provide you with comfort?

Just say NO to breast cancer

The pre-op appointment went well.  Dr. Schnider said that if the ovaries look healthy, he’s leaving them in.  He’ll just remove the fallopian tubes.  Unfortunately, the oncologist never got back to me, so couldn’t give her opinion.  I’d done some reading about menstrual migraines post-hysterectomy.  I have HORRIBLE ones, even with an IUD in place.  From what I read, removing the ovaries does NOT make the headaches better, and in fact, can make them worse because of the precipitous drop in hormones.  Of course, one could take HRT to solve that problem, but I can’t.

As always, despite drinking gallons of water, they couldn’t get a vein in my arm and had to use my hand.  Such an annoyance.  And one that I will face again next week.  I also had a baseline EKG. The only really bad thing was my blood pressure.  I’d gotten stuck in traffic due to…

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I Want To “Feel” Brave

With emergency surgery, I was really limited in the amount of fear I had going through with a hysterectomy. Things happened quickly and I didn’t have to put a surgery date on my calendar. I went in to emergency one night to assess the problems I was having and came out 5 days later minus one uterus! I can’t imagine how it must feel to have a ‘countdown’ to surgery! Here’s one women’s feelings leading up to her surgery.

Finding Hope In Change

I want to feel brave. People keep saying that I am and I don’t agree.

The truth is that have made the decision to have a prophylactic hysterectomy (as well as my previous prophylactic mastectomies) based on fear. Fear of cancer, chemotherapy and death.

Fear is a powerful feeling and I think, if used in the right way, it can create bravery. I also think that fear can cause one to be cowardly. I DO NOT FEEL COWARDLY. I just don’t feel “Brave” either.

I have to admit that I am scared to have this surgery but, more importantly, I am scared to not have this surgery and, later, get cancer. I saw my Mom go through (and survive) breast cancer. It was awful to see the effects of her treatment: chemo, radiation, stem cell transplant. AWFUL! I’m letting that memory drive me through my prevention efforts.

With that said, the thought of having surgery…

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{This is life} At 33 she CHOSE to have a full hysterectomy

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A little while ago I met a beautiful little girl. She was friendly, courteous and very charismatic. She had a mop of flame coloured hair and immediately stole my heart. Her mother has many of the same characteristics and just happens to be one of the bravest people I have ever met. She made  a decision that I am not sure I could ever make.annete2

At 33 she CHOSEto have a full hysterectomy.

She chose not to have any more children. It was a choice she made to take the chance to live pain free.

While you and I take for granted our everyday existence without the reliance of strong medication and therapy, Annette doesn’t. She lives a life of pain, operations and ongoing pills.

This story starts with a young carefree teenager. Just your girl next door who loved life.  She was 15 when she first started experiencing…

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Pre-Op Revelations

Finding Hope In Change

I thought this blog post was going to be quick and easy but the Pre-Op appointment(s) revealed information that requires a longer entry today.

First of all I should share that I have a lovely sinus infection. Woo! It started a few days ago but I decided to avoid meds (outside of my nightly Zyrtec) because of the upcoming surgery. I was feeling better than I ever had with a sinus infection – I’d even go so far as to call it a “mild sinus infection” if there is such a thing. Well…this morning I felt like it was trying to creep into my chest so I got permission from Dr. G’s office (the on-call doctor) to get antibiotics from my general practitioner. The GP didn’t want to give me the quick and easy Z-pack because this sinus infection has been lingering since November so I’m on a 10 day…

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